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Caroline Yongue: A Buddhist Lay Minister Asks ‘What Is A Good Death?’

Caroline Yongue: A Buddhist Lay Minister Asks ‘What Is A Good Death?’

Caroline Yongue: A Buddhist Lay Minister Asks ‘What Is A Good Death?’

This radio documentary was produced by The Spiritual Edge, with the support of CRCC’s global project on engaged spirituality. Listen to it on The Spiritual Edge’s website.

On a sunny October morning in North Carolina, the Carolina Memorial Sanctuary’s small staff gathers in a clearing.  Sumac and blackberry brambles are waist high, and blue jays shriek at the small group from a stand of pines.  There’s a burial the next morning, and the weather forecast is iffy.  The Sanctuary’s founder, Caroline Yongue, is worried: do they have a tent large enough to cover the grave?

Rain isn’t just an inconvenience.  Wet soil slows the body’s decomposition.  At the Sanctuary, these details matter. The goal is to return the body’s nutrients to the land, nourishing the surrounding plants and animals.  Graves are dug by hand, just three feet deep.  Shrouds and coffins must be biodegradable, and embalming — which requires toxic chemicals — is not allowed. Staff are working to root out invasive species, support native plants, and rebuild fragile ecosystems.  The land is legally protected from future development.

Caroline had dreamed of building such a place for years.  She came to death work in the 1990s, when a member of her Buddhist community died.  The group didn’t have much experience with Buddhist death traditions, so Caroline’s teacher asked her to learn more about the subject.  Soon, she was walking her Buddhist community through deaths.  then, she was helping friends and friends of friends from other faith backgrounds.  She learned that almost everyone was unprepared for death. “We’re in a culture that doesn’t look at death and doesn’t hold it,” she says.  Her goal?  To change that culture, one person at a time.

The first step was teaching. Caroline offered classes with names like “Preparing for Your Own Good Life and Death” and “Home Funeral Training.”  She asked students to tackle hard questions: What is a good life?  What is a good death?  How would I like to die?  She walked them through the practicalities, too — how to keep a body cool, how to wrap a shroud.

Then, in 2015, Caroline took a gamble. She sold her house and used the money to buy a beat-up dairy farm: eleven acres of wetland and forest tucked up against a swath of soybean fields. Today, the Carolina Memorial Sanctuary is a patchwork of meadow and trees cut through by walking paths.  Low graves are visible through the grasses, the more recent ones adorned with pine needles, sumac berries, and flowers.  Some of her former students and friends are buried here.  One day, Caroline will be, too.  In the meantime, she keeps busy — sitting with grieving parents, ordering more bamboo urns, giving tours to adults cautiously contemplating their own mortality.   Preparing for death, it turns out, is the work of a lifetime.

Listen to the podcast on spiritualedge.org.

 

Jess Engebretson is a journalist fellow with the Spiritual Exemplars Project.